Thursday, May 8, 2008

Back to Work

Terlalu banyak kerjaan tuh nyebelin.

Ga ada kerjaan juga nyebelin. Trust me.

Selama 2 minggu terakhir kerjaan di kantor gua dikit banget. Apalagi seminggu terakhir... nyaris tak ada.. Ceritanya jadi pengangguran terselubung nih.. Datang ke kantor cuma browsing2, baca2 blog, baca2 artikel & berita, ngemil, cek email pribadi, ngerjain pekerjaan di luar kerjaan, tidur *di WC*
Wekss.. boring banget.. Kata sapa makan gaji buta tuh enak? Ada perasaan bersalah. Terlebih lagi.. ada perasaan "ga kepake". Punya talent, punya skills, tapi ga bisa dipake. Eugh.. stress juga.. luntang-lantung.. jadi males pergi kerja, soalnya ngerjain hal-hal kaya' gitu sih di rumah juga bisa.

Tapi.. semua itu berakhir hari ini. Bagaikan durian runtuh, hari ini gua ketiban proyek. Bulan September nanti company gua bakal ngadain event di Vietnam. Asyik! Ada alesan lagi buat pergi kerja, ada workload lagi. Akhirnya.. doa gua terjawab :D Thanks GOD! Seneng banget!

Dan yang paling penting.. ada kemungkinan buat travel ke negara baru. Hihihi.. *meski mimpi ke Jepang masih harus dipendam dalam2*

Yah.. seperti yang temen gua bilang.. durian runtuh tuh ada enak dan engga. Durian tuh rasanya enak, tapi kalo KETIBAN DURIAN? Sakit bo!
Setelah gua itung2, ternyata deadlinenya cukup deket juga. Yah.. kita liat aja.. durian itu ternyata jatoh di mana.. Apa di kepala gua? (sehingga bikin kepala gua pusing 7 keliling) Ato jatoh menimpa tanah tepat di depan gua? (Asoyy.. Hehe..)
Yang pasti.. saat ini gua mo nikmatin kerjaan gua dulu! Cao..

Monday, May 5, 2008

Oleh-oleh dan Jepang :)

Hari ini bos gua pulang dari libur 2 minggunya ke Punta Cana buat ngehadirin acara wedding sepupu suaminya. Selaen ke Punta Cana, bos gua bersama suami n anaknya juga singgah di New York & Los Angeles. Dia ke Universal Studios, nemenin anaknya "melihat-lihat", soalnya anak bos gua punya rencana mo kuliah perfilman di sana.

Ini berarti.. oleh-oleh! :D
Dibeliin kalung handmade made in Punta Cana. Dibeliin giant pop-corn caramel buatan Hollywood. *Yummy banget! :p* Dibeliin permen karet :) Dan dibeliin coklat dari Jepang (soalnya dia transit di Narita).

Bos gua cerita banyak. Dia bilang NY kotor banget, ga betah. Dia bilang kalo dia suka banget Jepang, dan gua bakal suka Jepang *kalo ini sih ga usah dikasih tau*.
Aaahh... pengeeennnnn ke Jepang! Bikin ngiler! Gimana engga? Bos gua bilang "I like Japan. And I know you will like Japan" dengan mata berbinar2 n senyum yang lebar meneduhkan... Hiks..
OK! Someday, gua pasti ke sana! *dengan tekad bulat & kepalan tangan*
Tapi jujur, gua kaget juga kalo bos gua bilang gitu. Soalnya dia di Jepang kan cuma liat airportnya doank, kok bisa men-generalisasi kaya gitu. Hehe..

Perfect!

Been thinking a lot about "perfection" lately...

Why?
1. Coz when you aim for 100, but you got 92. That's imperfect...
2. Coz when you were supposed to help people in worshipping GOD for the whole Sunday Service, but you made them confused & wandering around-looking for the song's text-for a good 5 minutes. That's imperfect..

And imperfection is sin.

Kesel juga. Udah prepare bener2... tapi tetep aja ada yang salah... Urrghh...

Tapi untungnya.. seudah gua minta maap ma Tuhan dan seudah gua renungin lebih jauh lagi.. perasaan negatif itu berubah jadi perasaan positif, soalnya gua dibukakan beberapa pemikiran:
1. Allah itu sempurna dan menuntut kesempurnaan:
"Karena itu haruslah kamu sempurna, sama seperti Bapamu yang di sorga adalah sempurna (Matius 5:48)"
2. Tapi Allah ga perfeksionis. Dia bahkan bantu anak2-Nya buat jadi sempurna.
Seorang perfeksionis tuh ga bisa nerima ketidaksempurnaan. Dia bakal cenderung ga suka orang2 laen yang kerjaannya ga sesempurna dia.
Allah ga seperti itu. Dia menerima kita, manusia yang ga sempurna:
"Jika kita mengaku dosa kita, maka Ia adalah setia dan adil, sehingga Ia akan mengampuni segala dosa kita dan menyucikan kita dari segala kejahatan." (I Yoh 1:9)

Kesimpulan:
Gua harus tetep menargetkan kesempurnaan. Kalo gua berhasil melakukan hal2 dengan sempurna, ya bersyukur! Tapi kalo hasilnya ga sempurna, terima & percaya kalo Tuhan lagi ngajarin sesuatu biar next time kita bisa ngelakuinnya dengan sempurna :)

Sunday, May 4, 2008

True Service

Dapet dari pelatihan hari Sabtu kemaren yang menurut gua harus di-sharekan buat para pelayan Tuhan...

Self-Righteous Service vs. True Service :
- Come from human effort frantic, anxious, seek titanic, impressive ministry (Big Crowds) vs. Come from Divine urges, dependent on God, welcomes all opportunities (Large/Small Crowds)
- Craves applause vs. Content with hiddenness
- Concern with results vs. Leave the result with God
- Concerns with reciprocation vs. Delight only in service
- Pick whom to serve (the high and the powerful) vs. Serve enemies as well as friends (servant of all)
- Serve when the 'feeling' is there vs. Serve when the 'need' is there
- Uses technique for ego enhancing vs. Submit techniques to function
- Must perform even if destructive vs. Can withhold service, wait in silence
- Exposes frailty of other leaders vs. Cover frailty of others
- Fractures community vs. Built community

Labour Day Fun!

Hari Rabu tanggal 1 Mei kemaren tuh hari libur nasional di Singapore ngerayain Labour Day.

Bangun pagi *menjelang siang :p* nyuci baju. Sambil nunggu cucian, gua nge-blog. Cucian beres.. gua mandi (sementara itu para housemates sedang sibuk masak martabak! Hohoho...). Selesai mandi.. mencicipi martabak enak! :D Terus terburu2 pergi ke MRT station. Ada apa gerangan? Udah ada janji sama temen mo maen my favourite console, NINTENDO Wii!!!

Rewind dulu deh.. Hari itu tuh ada kegiatan Pelatihan Worship Leader dan Musician gereja, tempatnya di salah satu condo jemaat kita *sekeluarga: ada Bapa, Ibu, anak cowo, n anak cewe* Pelatihannya sendiri rencananya mulai jam 2, tapi kita boleh dateng lebih awal buat maen2 di rumahnya *yang ternyata sangat mewah, Sodara2!*. Saya pernah nanya2 sama si anak cewe, "Apa aja yang bisa dikerjain di rumah elu?". Jawaban pertamanya adalah, "Bisa maen Nintendo Wii." Wuussshh.. pikiran gua langsung melanglangbuana, mengingat masa2 bahagia waktu pertama kalinya *dan sekali2nya* maen Wii di Virgo Cruise.


"Hiatt!.. Eits!.. Wuooo!..."
*Waktu Juara Kompetisi Wii se-kapal pesiar*

Singkat cerita.. sampailah kami ke condonya, dan saking asiknya.. kami pun dengan sukses:
1. Merubah condo mewah menjadi game centre super ribut
2. Men-delay pelatihan hingga baru dimulai pukul 3 lebih *klo yang ini sih bukan salah gua aja =)*

Setelah berhasil dalam usaha menahan nafsu bermain Wii, kami pun memulai perlatihan. What a revealing knowledge I had! Gua mo share beberapa hal yang paling berkesan:
1. Theological Concept of Worship, esp regarding the "football stadium" illustration & Placido Domingo's "unseen prompter":
-"Football stadium" tuh terdiri dari: a) audience b) coach c) player
Dalam sebuah ibadah:
> Tuhan punya peran sebagai a, b, dan c
> Worship leaders (WL, singers, musicians, pembaca Alkitab, dll) punya peran sebagai b dan c
> Jemaat berperan sebagai c
-Worship leaders' role should be the same as "unseen prompter".

From Wikipedia:
"The prompter in an
opera house gives the singers the opening words of each phrase a few seconds early. Prompts are mouthed silently or hurled lyrically in a half-voice, audible (hopefully) only on stage...
Opera prompters are traditionally housed in a stuffy wooden box at the center-front edge of the stage, above the
orchestra pit. They are visible to the performers and no one else. ..
Prompters attend all rehearsals, mark up any adjustments or clarifications to the score, and generally “prepare” singers for a role. Their profile is low, and opera program books often credit them only under “musical preparation” or some similar moniker."

Di sini bisa diliat kalo peran mereka sangat penting, tapi jarang ada orang yang tau mereka. Mereka ga pernah dapet applause. Yg dipuja2 biasanya penyanyi operanya...

Yg paling penting sekarang.. Apa implikasi 2 ilustrasi di atas buat para worship leaders? Silakan direnungkan. Any comments? Silakan berdiskusi sama gua. Kalo gua bisa jawab, ya syukur. Kalo ga bisa.. ya harus nerima! Hahaha..

2. Biblical Concept of Worship: Performance is to do something complicated of difficult with skill in public, with a view toward serving and ministering

3. The challenge:
- Be prompter AND performer
- Allow freedom by BETTER PREPARATION
- Reserve energy and know your role in worship

Pelatihan dilanjutin dengan persekutuan dan... BBQ!!!! :D Makan.. makan.. Ada sate, ada baso, ada kimchi, ada gado2, ada pie *Seudah dipikir2 lagi.. kombinasi makanannya agak aneh juga..* Dan yang paling asik.. kita jalan2 ke pantai!!! PANTAI, Sodara2! Udah 1 taun gua ga menyentuh pantai, ga menyentuh ombak. Hiks.. rindu yang terobati.. Juga sempet bersepeda ria :)
Oya, di pantai tuh kita TERIAK2 & NYANYI2 SEKENCENG2NYA BERKALI2!!! Udah ga peduli dengan orang2 sekitar, udah ga peduli dikira gila! Kita bener2 butuh de-stressed! HAHAHA! LEGAAA.. deh!

Back to the condo, gua nikmatin suasana pinggir kolam renang. Duduk2 ditemani hembusan angin sepoi2 sambil menatap langit berbintang... Wow.. mimpi apa gua semalem ya.. bisa ngerasain scene kaya gini.. Hehe..

Udah ah.. tambah diinget2 takutnya ntar malah terlalu kangen.. jadi ketagihan sama condo itu.. Hihi..

So grateful to GOD for the meaningful & fun day!

Friday, May 2, 2008

Singapore Succeeds at Managing Everything - Except Dating :)

Singapore succeeds at managing everything - except dating
By Seth Mydans
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
SINGAPORE: It was like a college mixer, a classroom full of young men and women seeking a recipe for romance.
They had assembled for the first class of "Love Relations for Life: A Journey of Romance, Love and Sexuality."
There was giggling and banter among the students, but that was all part of the course material as their teacher, Suki Tong, led them into the basics of dating, falling in love and staying together.
The course, which is in its second year at two polytechnic institutes, is the latest of many, mostly futile, campaigns by the government to get its citizens to mate and multiply. Its popularity last year has led to talk of expansion through the higher education system.
"We want to tell students: Don't wait until you have built up your career," Yu-Foo Yee Shoon, minister of state for community development, youth and sports, said at a news conference last month. "Sometimes, it is too late, especially for girls."
The courses are an extension of government matchmaking programs that try to address the twin challenges embodied in a falling birthrate: Too few people are having babies and too few of those who are belong to what Singapore considers the genetically desirable educated elite.
For 25 years, the mating rituals organized by the government - tea dances, wine tasting, cooking classes, cruises, screenings of romantic movies - have been among the country's least-successful social engineering programs.
Last year Singapore's fertility rate fell to a record low of 1.24 children per woman of childbearing age, one of the lowest in the world and the 28th year in a row it has stayed below the rate of 2.5 children needed to maintain the population.
But even a replacement-level rate would not be enough for today's planners. The government recently announced that it was aiming to increase the population by 40 percent over the next half century, to 6.5 million from the current 4.5 million.
"Teaching our youth in school how to fall in love" is a good solution, wrote Andy Ho, a senior writer at The Straits Times, a government-friendly newspaper that does its best to help out in Singapore's many campaigns.
In 1991, for example, when the government began offering cash bonuses to couples with more than two children, the newspaper printed tips for having sex in the back seat of a car, including directions to some of the "darkest, most secluded and most romantic spots" for parking.
It suggested covering the windows with newspapers for privacy.
Singapore is a topiary nation, constantly trimming and pruning itself into shapes that it believes improve on nature.
As the modern world weakens traditional family ties, for example, families are given financial incentives to care for their elderly parents - or taken to court for neglecting them.
Singapore is known for its campaigns to get residents to be polite, to smile, to be tidy, to speak proper English and not to chew gum.
In 1984, the country's master planner, then-Prime Minister Lee Kuan Yew, declared that too few of the country's most eligible women - the ones with college degrees - were marrying and having children.
He set up the Social Development Unit to address the problem and since then the government has been Singapore's principal matchmaker.
In addition to its tea dances and moonlight cruises, the agency also acts as a lonely hearts adviser, with an online counselor named Dr. Love and a menu of boy-meets-girl suggestions on its Web site, www.lovebyte.org.sg.
"Guys, girls notice everything!" the Web site offers in one of its dating tips. "Comb your hair differently and they notice. Change your watch and they notice! Skipped your morning shower and sprayed on deodorant to cover the smell - they notice! What does this mean? Well, bathe regularly, change something about yourself, be observant and compliment the lady."
Lee himself acknowledged how silly some of this may seem.
"Never mind the hullabaloo in the press - all the foreign correspondents writing that a crackpot government is trying to interfere in people's lives," he said when he inaugurated the Social Development Unit.
"If we continue to reproduce ourselves in this lopsided way we will be unable to maintain our present standards," he said.
In other words, said Annie Chan, director of a matchmaking agency, "Our government wants smart ladies to meet smart guys to get smart children."
But in Singapore it is impossible to get very far from thoughts of money and the workplace. These guys may have other things on their minds besides romance and babies.
"Some people say if you're a smart guy you should marry a smart woman who can help you with your finances and career," said Chan, whose agency is called Club2040 and who has worked under contract for the Social Development Unit.
Singaporeans quite seriously describe their society as being driven by a local concept called "kiasu," a desire not so much to get ahead as, rather, not to lose out. That concept might be applied, for example, to a person who pushes ahead of everybody else to get into an elevator.
This single-mindedness, in life as in elevators, seems to leave little room for social graces or for romance or procreation. "The E.Q. here can be appalling," said Chan, referring to an "emotional quotient" of social skills.
But even while working on the solution, Chan seems to be part of the problem. She is 39 and has been married for four years, but said she does not have the time or energy to have children.
"Me and my husband are both busy now running our own businesses," she said. "When he's back home he's tired out, and I bring home work to do. At the end of the day, business does interfere."
It is a lot to ask of a college course to break attitudes like this. Three 20-year-old graduates from last year's inaugural course at Singapore Polytechnic still seemed imbued more with "kiasu" than romance.
Despite everything their teachers had told them about multitasking work and love, none was in a relationship. And nothing they had heard in class seemed to have dented their stereotypes about the opposite sex.
"I'm not open to relationships in school," said Wei Shan Koh, a former student who works as a teacher's aide. "Boys in school are not my cup of tea. They are male chauvinist pigs. They're annoying and childish. And they won't give in to you. They're just not mature."
Another former student, Tian Xi Tang, was quick to respond.
"I think girls' ideas are a bit childish, or you might say girlie," said Tian, who hopes to become an engineer. "It's a matter of pride. Guys are more outspoken. We don't like a girl to be more outspoken."
Kamal Prakash, who hopes to be a lecturer in mathematics, gave voice to what appears to be the common theme here, both among young people and their elders.
"I am not interested now in love relations because I want to continue my studies," he said. "If I concentrate on love relations, I won't be able to concentrate on my studies."

Thursday, May 1, 2008

Introduction to My Church in Singapore

Semenjak SMA, kehidupan gua ga pernah lepas dari yang namanya gereja. Gereja adalah rumah kedua gua, bahkan sometimes jadi rumah pertama. *Papa.. Mama.. maafkan aku.. bukan maksudku menduakan kalian >.<*
Penasaran kenapa bisa sampe kaya gitu? Bukan... gua bukan anak pungut pendeta... bukan juga tukang kebon gereja.. Jawabannya adalah karena di gereja pun gua menemukan "ohana" (keluarga-red) *Gagayaan doank.. pake bahasa Hawaii*
Yup. Tuhan bisa ditemui di mana pun, tapi keluarga sebagai wadah dimana kita bisa SALING me-... dengan penuh kasih, cuma gua temuin di gereja, especially saat2 gua di Singapore, saat2 jauh dari keluarga inti gua... Dan tentu aja ada keharusan buat ngenalin gereja gua di Singapore ini, soalnya untuk ke depannya gua bakal banyak cerita soal gereja ini, dan buat ngerti ceritanya, ada beberapa istilah, singkatan, akronim yg perlu dimengerti. Jadi.. yuk mulai pelajaran Bahasa Indonesia Inggris (BII) qta!

Baiklah anak2, perkenalkan, nama saya Ms. Ita, guru BII kalian yang baru. Kali ini saya akan memperkenalkan kepada kalian beberapa istilah kehidupan gereja saya di Singapore: - IEC Singapore (International Evangelical Church Singapore), kadang cuma disebut IEC. Di Indonesia dikenal sebagai GII Hok Im Tong. IEC Singapore dirintis dari awal taun 2007 dan official Grand Opening-nya awal taun 2008 *Duh.. masih baby banget.. masih imut2 ^^*
- Toho (lengkapnya: Toho Mansion - 194 Holand Rd): adalah headquarter IEC.
OK. Let's define "headquarter". HQ here defines as:
1. Tempat para staff full time IEC tinggal
2. Tempat menginap untuk tamu IEC
3. Tempat untuk bersekutu & rapat
Adapun beberapa fungsi tambahan adalah sebagai berikut:
4. Tempat nongkrong dan ngeceng buat anak2 muda
5. Tempat makan, minum, ngeprint, telpon, dan internetan, gratis *emang warnet!*
6. Tempat "pelarian" alias tempat nginep kalo kita lagi ribut sama housemates ato roommate kita. Hehe..
- Kebaktian: Kegiatan ibadah dengan tata cara ibadah yang formal. Diadakan setiap hari Minggu jam 10 pagi di DBS Auditorium, 6 Shenton Way
- Persekutuan Pemuda: adalah suatu kegiatan ibadah informal untuk para pemuda-pemudi. Diadakan tiap hari Sabtu jam 6 sore. Selalu diikuti oleh MAKAN! Huahahaha...
- Kebaktian Doa: Suatu kegiatan ibadah dimana ada penekanan terhadap doa. Diadakan di Toho tiap Rabu jam 7.30 malem.
- Small Group (SG): Kelompok kecil. Jemaat gereja yg jumlahnya banyak itu dibagi jadi kelompok2 kecil (sekitar 5-8 orang). Di SG itu biasanya kita membahas suatu topik ato bacaan Alkitab, sharing, saling update kondisi masing2, saling mendoakan. *Entah kenapa bibir tiba2 mengumbar senyum waktu gua ngetik soal SG. Hehe.. Ntar gua cerita2 deh..* SG itu diadakan sesuai dengan kesepakatan para anggotanya.

OK. Hari ini cukup sampai sekian. Bagi kalian yang berminat untuk mengerti secara utuh beberapa isi posting gua yang terdahulu dan yang akan datang yang berhubungan dengan gereja, saya sangat anjurkan untuk mempelajari istilah2 di atas.

Sampai jumpa di pelajaran berikutnya!